Make The Time

Henry Drummond said ” Wherever we are, it is our friends that make our world.” A few posts ago I shared the importance of saying yes. A component of that is saying yes to making time for your friends. As we get older responsibilities increase while extra time decreases. We find ourselves yearning for a girls night out, but deciding against it because a Friday night could be used to catch up on laundry. Today I am challenging you to forget about the laundry, dishes, and yard work. You will always have those responsibilities, but can you say with 100% certainty that you will always have the opportunity to see a friend? People move, grow apart, get ill, pass away and those opportunities become fewer and fewer.  This week I have taken every opportunity I can to find time for my friends, and to be honest it was as much for me as it was for us. I have been having a hard time coping with the grieving from dropping out of school and laughing with my girlies was just what I needed. So go make the time! You deserve it and you NEED it!

YOUR LIFE ISN’T LYING TO YOU

I stumbled across this great little post that I thought was so relevant to me right now and I wanted to share! Lately, I have been depressed questioning if dropping out of school was the right decision. Kicking myself from turning down days to work at my job, removing myself from opportunities to work on my art, and I have spent the past two weeks binge watching America’s Next Top Model and making excuses as to why it was ok for me to just sulk. Today I woke up the same way but by noon I decided that this was not how I was going to carry on. I decided to own my decision and turn my day around. I put on make up, some beautiful lipstick, and got my smile ready to flash today. I worked on my art, read, sat outside, and added some new pieces to my Fine Art America website.  Life is not lying to me and I do need to listen.

Check out the article “Your Life isn’t Lying to You” by clicking the blue link below!

 

How often do we ask ourselves the question, “why did that have to happen to me?” It would seem we’ve become accustomed to believing that what happens to us is never our fault. In …

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We Can All Be “Artists”

Ok ok I know not everyone likes art or can draw, but figuratively we can all be artists. What I want you to do as you read this quote is reflect on how these concepts can apply to you because they are meant for everyone! Not just those who are artistic.

“The young artist of today need no longer say “I am a painter” or “a poet” or “a dancer”. He is simply an “artist”. All of life will be open to him. He will discover out of ordinary things the meaning of ordinariness. He will not try to make them extraordinary. Only their real meaning will be stated. But out of nothing he will devise the extraordinary then maybe nothingness as well. People will be delighted or horrified, critics will be confused or amused”

-“The Legacy of Jackson Pollock” by Allan Kaprow

I’m curious how my readers interpret and apply this to themselves. Share your thoughts in the comments!

The Power of Yes

Saying ‘yes’ was what helped me to recover from my long list of mental illnesses, however, I realized after reading this blog post that I have stopped saying yes. With the stress of school, my health, and life and general, ‘no’ has become and all too familiar word. It’s time for me to say ‘yes’ again. This time not to heal, but instead to maintain.

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Yes. A small word with a big impact. One syllable that can lead to incredible adventures, new relationships, and abundant life. Recovery has been a journey of rediscovering me, and becoming who I&#…

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Positivity

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Imagine…

It’s the 1st day of the new year. You have to complete your first new years resolution workout then head to a 9 hour work day. You grab your new Nike frees (that you specifically got for this purpose), fit into your snug Lululemon leggings, and throw on a Detroit Tigers logo fitted T-shirt. You’re ready to accomplish your goals. As your start your car several questions run through your mind such as, “How many people are going to be there?”, “Am I going to have enough time to get ready for work?”, “People are probably going to look at me like I don’t know what I’m doing…I mean, look at me.”

Hang with me…

You keep driving because lets face it, you didn’t wake up at 5am on a Monday morning NOT go. After shoving your belongings in a locker, finding the perfect playlist, and decide which machine you’re going to…

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Whatever Is Flexible and Flowing Will Tend to Grow, Whatever Is Rigid and Blocked Will Wither and Die – Tao Te Ching

Today I decided to accept change and drop from all of my courses. This has nothing to do with my abilities or faith but rather my love for my well being. Today I walked on campus and took in the views one last time. I inhaled the fumes of the art and design building one last time. It was a sad goodbye but I know that just like good things came from being in school, good things will also come from being out of school. This article felt so relevant to today. I hope you enjoy it!

Love ,

Stephanie

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Source: Whatever Is Flexible and Flowing Will Tend to Grow, Whatever Is Rigid and Blocked Will Wither and Die – Tao Te Ching

Detours: I Can Have It All

In my first blog post I wrote a short synopsis of my recent detour from art school. I came across this writing I did in December about an internal struggle I had been dealing with, and thought I should share.

Sometimes I feel like I have two separate people living inside my body. Both are really selfish! One wants to have babies, buy a house, travel, and settle down. She wants the house-wife-all-american-dream. The other wants to get a masters degree and move to the west coast. She wants to travel the world to show her art and see a history of masters. She wants to devote her life to her art. But which one am I supposed to be? Do I dedicate my life to creativity or to motherhood? I see no way to do both. As much as women have the empowerment to do whatever they want in life, it still comes down to biology. You can’t be a full-time artist, have kids in your late 30s, and still be able to dedicate life to creativity. It has to be one or the other.

One or the other.

That’s within me…then I have outside of me. Family, money, my husband’s education, my husbands goals, expectations of others.

It’s impossible.

Yet there is a little bird that continues to whisper in my ear.

Yes you can.

In my second post I addressed how to flip your mind from abusive to encouraging. When I read this I can identify every negative voice and every encouraging voice. I know myself.

I also know how black and white my brain is. Grey matter (punny) is extremely difficult to come by in my brain. It is a constant struggle of finding a healthy balance.

One thing I have realized recently is I do not have to settle for one or the other. I really can have it all, and there are many paths I can take to get there. Right now I am working on the alternate route that works best for me. I have no fear of the future or others’ expectations. Instead I rejoice in the newness of it all and the versatility of my dreams. I have a sense of adventure and awareness. Many roads can get me to my destination. It’s time for me to take the pressure off of myself; it’s time for all of us to take the pressure off of ourselves.

As Kurt Cobain says:

All in all is all we are

Plans

The most amazing God experience happened last night! I had been feeling distressed; not sure if my decision to quit school was smart or rash. Was it more constructive or destructive? I felt like God wasn’t helping me. He wasn’t guiding me, and I couldn’t feel him or hear him. I felt like a lost sheep that the Shepard had forgotten about. In my despair I started talking to God; asking him to let me hear him. Tears streaming down my face a book and verse popped into my head. After reading it I was guided to my portals of prayer which was titled “better worrier”. I had that feeling that I have in church occasionally that this was made just for me. I realized that I had not been asking God for help with my struggles, I had not been asking for what I want or depending on him. I stopped going to church, stopped reading the bible, stopped praying. No wonder I felt lost! So last night I gave it all up to the Lord. I cried and praised him. I told him I wanted to finish my degree and I asked him to please take this tension and pain away from me.

And you know what happened next…

My back felt like someone was hugging me from behind and suddenly all my tension and pain drained from my body.

God is so good!

I wanted to share this article I came across this morning because it is such a great reminder that maybe we can’t handle everything and maybe we don’t understand everything, but God has got our backs! We don’t need to be able to handle everything or understand everything, because he asks us to let him do all the leg work. All we need to do is praise him and glorify his name with our time on this earth.

Wishing you all a blessed day!

Stephanie

(PS with God’s strength and help I will be continuing my degree. My help comes from the Lord!)

Read the article “Plan” in the link below!

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“The most important lesson that I have learned is to trust God in every circumstance. Lots of times we go through different trials and following God’s plan seems like it doesn’t make an…

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Shonda Rhimes’ message at TED2016: Say ‘yes’ to what scares you, even if it’s saying ‘no’ to work

Find your ‘hum’ in the little things and it will transcend into the big things. Take time to take care of yourself!

I hope you enjoy this article and soak in all the joy you can!

Love,

Stephanie

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Shonda Rhimes says that one word “saved my career.” Find out what it was, and how it helped.

Source: Shonda Rhimes’ message at TED2016: Say ‘yes’ to what scares you, even if it’s saying ‘no’ to work

Change Your Mind and You’ll Change Your Heart

Have you ever beaten yourself up? Of course you have! We have an uncanny ability to ruthlessly ruminate on our shortcomings. Have you ever tried to denounce those thoughts? Challenging your inner voice is no easy task, however, recovering from my mental illness has given me the tools I need to “flip my mind”. Such skill has allowed me to value and advocate for myself.

So today I have a challenge for you! I want you to make a list of negative adjectives. For this exercise they need to be key negative descriptors that you use to describe yourself.  Then I want you to go to thesaurus.com and type in those words one at a time. With each word synonyms (same) and antonyms (opposites) of those words will be returned. I then want you to write down on your list next to the negative word your favorite antonym.

*Note: Sometimes our descriptors do describe characteristics about ourselves but the words we choose to use have a negative association. In a case where the antonym doesn’t apply check out the synonym list for a more positive descriptor. For example, one of my negative words is impulsive. An antonym is planned, but even though I can be careful at times I usually make decisions upon instinct so antonyms don’t apply. My favorite synonym would be passionate or intuitive.

Keep this list handy so the next time your inner voice puts you down you can build yourself up by using the antonym list. Here is an example of mine!

Did you have a hard time flipping your mind? Feel free to comment for help!

I am:

Lazy/// Caring

Impulsive// Passionate or intuitive (synonym)

Weak// Unbreakable

Flaky// Unconventional (synonym)